Are you worried about love failures? Have you lived a sorrow of love, a separation that has hurt you deeply? Are you afraid of falling in love and then losing that magnificent feeling?
Almost everyone lives this kind of experience, that kind of feelings and that kind of concerns, but if you react with the same habits, then the consequences will be even more painful, without counting the revenge and violence that will produce endless discussions.
Fortunately, our training in creative consciousness will bring you more than hope, but a free and different choice of everything you have read and understood about relationships.
What would be your ideal love relationship?
If you fell in love and lived a romantic relationship, what would be the most pleasant situations that would interest you?
Can you imagine a welfare at every moment of your love relationship? Is that well-being just yours or that of the other too?
Is that welfare in the satisfaction of their needs or in a free choice to please the other without any obligation or guilt?
Would not you like passion to be present in your relationship? Do you think that your wishes will change with the years, according to your evolution?
When you live problems, would you like to overcome them with respect, understanding and feel the pride of having overcome them? Do not you think that is a great success?
And his freedom? Do you prefer that your boyfriend or girlfriend be free and stay by his side by choice, for love or to stay by obligation, by condition regardless of whether there is love?
Are you already separated before discussing?
Lately I read on the Internet to all those people, their millions of tricks, tricks, advice, opinions in order to have good love relationships.
Many texts are similar, but there is a fundamental thing that is identical in each of these articles and is to tell you what to do or not to do to avoid fighting.
By habit learned from our birth, that is what we all do. We have not had a choice, we must do something to change something.
That process is identical, no matter what you decide to do, and then, the results will be.
Observe reality and you will see that people are increasingly separated.
Observe yourself and you will see that nobody has made you aware of their truths, which are their feelings, which are expressed through their emotions. They have told him rather the opposite.
As a result, you are already separated in yourself and you approach your love relationships according to that same unconsciousness.
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Do you live a loving relationship as if you did not exist?
If for example your partner tells you that you are a selfish person and have facts to prove it, then you must do something to not be. You decide not to be selfish by force, by obligation, by control of yourself, by will.
During all that time, in your mind, you think about what you want, you hold back and you give everything to the other, forgetting yourself. That works at the beginning, but you continually feel that it is not right for you and then the anger goes up, the pressure increases from not indulging and you resume the same behavior as before, but with more vigor.
In fact, the other wants you not to be selfish, that is, not to think, talk or fulfill your wishes, but only your own. What kind of relationship is that? Who is the selfish?
Duty to do is a reactive decision without any choice in its states of being, that is, its truths. That process starts in the “doing”, then you look for choices to make instead of choosing states of being before doing something.
Being in love is being attentive to their feelings of being and those of the other person during a relationship, then understanding the intentions or desires of the other, without forgetting theirs. Then you decide to do something.
But if you do something without being observed or understood, then your decisions will not be reflected and you will create more problems.
Expectations are what destroy love relationships
You need love, security, in a loving relationship, but it is those things that destroy love. You expect what the other gives you and in this way depends on him or her.
The expectations prevent human beings create the life you want, he says, not what others have told you what it was.
Love is not expectation, it is a feeling of good that you create by conscious choice and by free choice in your relationships.
Dependency is not freedom and that is against its nature. You will rebel against her, especially when you will experience injustice.
When a relationship serves only the wishes of a person, then there is injustice or treatment of favor. And justice can not exist in the obligation, but only in the freedom to be.
That freedom is a preference of choice while obligation is a reaction to be made without any choice.
You repeat unconsciously, the same decision process by reading and listening to everyone else instead of listening to yourself.
Why not enter into your relationships, in all your relationships keeping in mind, what you choose to be for yourself and the other, and not what you can get from the other?