As for their insecurity the difficult child wants to feel recognized in every action undertaken, it is important to offer emotional strategies to stop this constant external reinforcement need
Behind every difficult child emotional chaos hides covered with anger, and even disobedience, which is never easy to address by their parents or teachers.
Sometimes we is easier to resort to punishment or those increases words tone that only succeed in further intensify their negative emotions, frustration and even low self – esteem.
We may never know why some children come into the world with a more complex character than others. Now, far from seeking a reason the difficult character of our children must understand simply that some people have more needs, who needs more attention.
The difficult child does not listen, does not obey and often unmeasured react to certain situations. This makes us to fall into a circle of suffering where the link with that child is being charged of tension, anxiety and tears.
Something they usually do many parents and many mothers is to ask why. Am I a bad mother? Am I doing something wrong?
Before falling into these states of depression in which fuel further frustration, worth implementing these strategies.
There are children who grow up alone, almost without knowing why they are more mature, responsive and obedient while independent.
Now it is our responsibility to find an adequate response to the demanding child, and it requires patience, effort and much affection.
If adults and difficult for us to understand and manage our emotions, to a demanding child you will be even more complicated. Therefore, it is worth considering what basic needs first has a difficult child.
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Many parents and many mothers do not quite accept or understand positive reinforcement. Now it is necessary to clarify some aspects of this educational strategy.
The child must understand very early that we all have limits, to have rights that have to fulfill certain obligations. We do adults, and children cannot be less.
Seeking children need security and if we educate in highly structured where prime positive reinforcement environments, we will help you feel calmer.
Emotional Intelligence must be present in every child rearing. It is necessary to help you identify your emotions and translate into words what he feels.
Since very little we inured to the emotional communication that “what you feel.” You must know how to express that sadness, that anger that fears…
Thus you can make use of emotional release, but to do so, we must show trust and closeness. Never judge by what you say, or laugh. You need to be responsive and always promote a fluid, entertaining and accomplice dialogue.